A number of my clients are single women that are either active in the dating scene or just getting started. They typically come to me to help them come up with the perfect first (or second, or third) date look. Wanting to steer them in the right direction, I contacted a dating expert to make sure I was giving them the best advice along with their hot new looks.

Shannon Tebb, founder of ShannyInTheCity.com is a Dating Consultant and Matchmaker. She shared a few of her dating tips with me and now I’m passing them on to you. (Along with some first date looks to get you inspired.)

1. Pamper Yourself

The very first thing you might want to do is pamper yourself. Giving yourself a little self care helps you feel good about yourself before your date. Whether you get a mani-pedi, a massage or have a relaxing bath, luxuriate in the experience and make yourself feel extra special.

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2. Put Some Effort into Your Grooming

When it comes to dating, (especially first dates), it doesn’t hurt to put in a little extra effort. Wear your hair down, style it or curl it. Put on some makeup and throw on a subtle scent – just don’t overdo it. Go easy on the hairspray and perfume and if you’re playing up your eyes, keep the lipstick subtle. And vice versa.

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3. Look Great and be Comfortable

When it comes to the outfit, Shanny and I are definitely on the same page. You want to look great and show off your assets (without being overt), but you need to be comfortable too. Dating can be stressful and you don’t want to be tugging, pulling, fidgeting or be unable to move properly.

Build your look around the body part you most love. Got great legs? Highlight them in a fitted pencil skirt. Been working out those arms? Wear a sleeveless blouse to show them off. Love your cleavage? Wear a slightly lower cut top. Just make sure to leave something to the imagination.

On the flip side, if there are some parts of your body you’re not comfortable exposing, keep them covered to keep you from feeling exposed. It’s also a good idea to layer your look so that you have something to remove if the venue (or you) get a little warm.

And remember, you need to be comfortable in everything you wear – even your shoes. If you’re wearing high heels and can’t walk in them, leave them behind. You’re better off opting for a lower heel and not (literally) falling all over your date.


4. Get a Second Opinion

Sometimes it doesn’t hurt to ask a friend or someone you trust for a second opinion. If they truly want the best for you, they’ll be honest. If you don’t have someone you can trust, try asking a dating consultant. It’s their job to give you the best advice and steer you in the right direction.

A second opinion might also give you a boost of confidence – knowing that you really do look as amazing as you think you do.


5. Be Your Best Self

The best thing you can do for yourself and for your date is to be yourself – your very best self. Show your date who you truly are. Be animated, use facial expressions and carry yourself with confidence.

Most importantly, have fun and enjoy. He may not turn out to be Mr. Right, but sometimes Mr. Right Now can be just as good.